Enjoying the Waves

It was late noon, the sun was hovering over the seascape and I have the privilege of devouring it bit by bit. The view in total looked like something more than wonderful.

One cannot deny the fact that one found the view to be picture perfect, it was breathtakingly beautiful and most pleasing to the naked human eyes.

I was lounging comfortably on the daybed while watching the waves hitting the beach. It was telling a story. It was sharing the depth of the ocean.

Somehow, while I was reading between the lines; it revealed to me that when we dare to walk alone, leaving our past behind us, we will be free...

It was such a great honor when I get to be my imperfectly perfect self. The funny part was that with all the time I had, I only got through one magazine while sitting still at the very same spot for a couple of hours.

Since the sound of the waves was so mesmerizing - I was lost in translation. My mind was set wandering to a beautiful place, a sweet escapade that no one can intrude.

The sun, the ocean and the whole scenario made me see things from a different angle, a fresh perspective. I paid more attention to things that I have never really listened to. I was listening to myself; I was in awe of how many lives intertwined in ways we may never comprehend. 

It was like a mirror of notable spectacles with emphasis given on understanding ourselves. It was a lot more than I bargained for. Some of the random thoughts that came in the recollection of my memory was about the plus, minus and interesting points of the people around us and ourselves. 

Staying better in touch with people who matter to us. Paying attention to our true friends and rekindling the spark on age old friendship. Encouraging others and cheering them up.  Giving people we don't know a fair chance and the benefit of a fresh friendship to bloom. 

I personally think it is healthier to ignore nonconstructive, hurtful treatment or commentary. Self indulgence is only healthy once in a while; go treat ourselves only when we truly deserve it.  

Considering the conscious and unconscious mind being altered just by being swept away with the view from a room by a beach, I don't mind revisiting and doing this again.  

Nobody wants to be a victim

I was not in the right frame of mind to write hence blogging was on hold. Let's just say that if I did write at that point of time, it would be more like venting my anger and frustrations to the world.

We get how practically everybody have to deal and manage their own issues or troubles. The thought of sharing them would have made me us feel a whole lot better and a tad bit lighter.

Again, I found myself too astonished and dumbfounded that I couldn't find myself sharing it in the cyberworld, more so as to pen it down; *Sigh*

There were million things running through my mind and it wasn't a pretty picture. I have a considerably low level of tolerance towards the few who likes to play the victim game and I am not about to paint myself as one.

I made a bad choice and I did not manage things well. Lesson learnt and for me to wallow in self pity.. that would just be sad! The word pathetic seems a bit harsh, teehee ;)

You Have To Love, In Order To Be Loved

We have been married for awhile. It takes more than date nights to express that loving feeling. 

After all, love is an action word, something we do not just say.. Loads of hard work is involved.

Laughing Lines

Recently, I noticed how visible my laughing lines are, they are so clear and left its mark quite prominently. It certainly reveals my age. 

Anyways, I am forever grateful for I the fact that I have tonnes of reasons to smile now; it wasn't like before.

Everything happened for a reason and I am blessed to have been given my fair share of life's struggles, pain and temptations.

We all have to deal with some kind of something. I'm just glad that it made me become who I am today.

Social Networking Buzz

Most people get how social networking has become part and parcel of our daily lives just because it invokes the feeling of being connected to the world and people at large.

We understand how social networking allows us to discover all sorts of engaging things to read about, talk about and think about. It has become our muse.

Does it make a difference? Can one imagine how our lives would be with no social networking websites?

Then again, we will never miss what we never had.

Polka Dots

Polka dots are one of life's little joys. White polka dots has always been my favorite. I find it difficult to resist them. They look sweet and super cute practically on every little thing. 

Don't Take Things For Granted

All the things we take for granted, others will jump at the opportunity to appreciate it.

If we don't want to lose it, treasure and cherish all things dear to us.

Stormy Weathers

Nobody is hardly surprised by the fact that only the strongest will have the courage moreover desire to explore a long and winding road.

Not many would survive stormy weathers reserved in this elusive journey called life but to those who was able to make it through the rough patches, they will no doubt achieve mighty great things.

Pray

Praying for those who love you, that's ordinary.

Praying for those who hurt you, now that's extraordinary :)

Nothing But The Best For You

Any reasonable person would wish nothing but the best for the people who holds and have a very special place in their hearts. Particularly when the most bizarre thing that took place at that point of time was absolutely beyond our control.

Finding ourselves at a croosroad whereby only few would even dare to dream of making life changing decisions, the kind that struck us when there are many things coming and happening to us all in one shot is simply a nightmare which no one wants to relived. Certainly not me.

Hoping all is well.

Rainbow after the Rain

I see a rainbow after the rain,
It made me believe of hope and there is so much to gain,
As long as we abstain from complain.

Similarity Breeds Connection

I believe we are most familiar with the expression how opposite attracts, but recently I have reasons to think that it is not necessarily true. There seems to be a buzz going around about how “similarity breeds connection”. Let's go check some text books for a better view on the subject matter.

Homophily Theory
Psychologically, within the balance theory people will see similarities in those people if they like each other, and vice versa, likeability will be increased if they are perceived as similar (Fiske). In relation to prediction of liking and attraction, similarity stands alone. One key component of liking someone is based on personality, interests and personal history similarities (Fiske, 2004). This is also known as the similarity-attraction hypothesis. According to Fiske, at least three models explain the similarity-attraction hypothesis. Firstly, positive reinforcement, the principle that shared attitudes confirms and validates an individual’s beliefs and attitudes (Fiske). Reinforcement theory states that people will seek out behaviours that have been rewarded more (Baumeister & Bushman, 2008). 

This can be seen within friendships that confirm each others beliefs. An individual’s self esteem is boosted because they are correct, which leads to attraction because an individual will feel good around the other person (Fiske). This theory of explanation for homophily can be applied to our personal relationships with our family and friends. 

I have always maintained my strongest friendships with those similar to me as opposed to those that are vastly different. The need for similar interests and attitudes has always been an important factor as it fosters greater interaction and activities possibilities. Furthermore, when friends have similar attitudes and beliefs the interaction is more likely to be positive than friends who have different opinions and consequently clash within daily interactions.

 Aristotle once wrote within his Rhetoric and Nichomachean Ethics that people “love those who are like themselves” (Aristotle, 1934, p. 1371, cited in McPherson et al., p. 416). Furthermore, Plato stated within Phaedrus that "similarity begets friendship" (Plato, 1968, p. 837, cited in McPherson et al., p. 416). Additionally, Tarde said “social relations, I repeat, are much closer between individuals who resemble each other in occupation and education” (Tarde, 1903, cited in Rogers & Bhowmik, 1971, p. 525). Lazarsfeld and Merton also quoted the well known expression of “birds of a feather flock together,” which is still used to illustrate the concept of homophily, which they attributed to Robert Burton (McPherson et al., p. 417).

I find these theories as amusing findings because now it seems to me that it is safe to say about how familiarity may not breed contempt.  At times, familiarity will pave the way for greater relationship with our family and friends. Having said that,  we can always beg to differ and agree to disagree. 

Reflections

Is it possible for any of us to wade through memories, dreams and reflections? 

It might have sprung right from our childhood, moving on to every significant phases of our lives as we morphed into the very person we are today. 

The experiences, journey and road taken by choice or force, challenging us at most convenient times definitely made our lives more colorful. 

There is no irony here, it is just a blessed life worth living.